How to be a Brilliant Woman

There are some things we must remember clearly, a classic is original.
A classic does not compare with anything at all.

It is unique and one in a life time.

This may be too much for some, and to know that is intelligent.
Some women do not have the deep inner currents of craving a lot from life

How do you become a brilliant women? I share with you steps on the journey.
Over 30 practices and tips to get you started on your way to brilliance

Over time, like the finest wine.
Start with these steps

1 – Inner Wealth
2 – Coin Matters
3 – Tradition Tradition Tradition
4 – Culture is everything
5 – Know your vice
6 – Know your ‘God’
7 – Have a cause
8 – Find your Love
9 – Ritual Matters
10 – Devoted to Life

1. Discover Your Inner Wealth

“whatever you do in life, don’t give up on your own dreams” ~ Nicole Kidman

The world is in such a terrible shape today, because we have degenerate mind and thinking. degenerate beliefs and limitations that we continue to argue for, instead of passionate radiance and beauty, we argue about wars and politics.

Women today make a great contribution to the world. We are the bright flowers of the world that makes it a beautiful fragrant and captivating place to live.

Make sure you know your inner wealth – who you are matters.

If you do not have an answer to this question “What is my inner wealth?” spend time and dedicate yourself to uncover it.
I spent nearly a decade working with native shamans in the Andes and Amazon, I spent many years with various prestigious Lamas, I have nobility in my family, I am european, I value my beauty, I am gifted with 3 instruments,
I published a book
I did many retreats, received over a hundred transmissions in all four schools of Buddhism
I have a discipline I follow for almost two decades
I cherish my core values
I know who I am to the core

“each time a woman stands up for herself, she stands up for all women“
~Maya Angelou

“you get in life what you have the courage to ask for” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Steps on the journey

Journal – if you haven’t discover it yet, journaling uncovers a lot of our subconscious desires, years later you may want to review what you wrote and see where you are, very insightful
Friends compliments/notices – are valuable signs of who you are and what you are good at
Mile stones – make a list of 5 things in your life that really defined your life – like publishing a book, starting or ending a relationship, graduating from grad school, running a long race, you name it and you pin it to your mile stone list
Retreat – best way to dive into heart research and inner wealth, is to do a retreat with a good teacher who supports your vision

2. Coin matters a lot, and isn’t everything

“making money is art and working is art and good business is the best art”
~Andy Warhol

What is your relationship with money? Develop a new relationship with money and what money means to you, how you get it and what you do with it. It is amazing to find out when money becomes a driving force for some people the only thing to live for, and they forget the joy of living.

To money is a resource, perhaps not as important as oxygen, yet vital in maintaining my health and wellbeing.

Are you the kind of woman who wants to be supported by a man, or the kind who wants to do the supporting? Look into your own heart and see what it is that money means to you and what it means to get money and how receiving money feels.
Over time you will develop a more dynamic relationship with money.

While we are on earth money matters.

“the secret to wealth is simple: find a way to do more for others than anyone else does. become more valuable. do more. give more. be more. serve more. and you will have the opportunity to earn more” ~ Tony Robbins

It does provide everything, literally. If you don’t know who you are money will/may replace what love is /could be – this is why the Inner wealth is more important than money ever will be.
there are plenty of people who cover up with money who they are and they lack a lot.
Knowing your flow of energy and what you need matters a great deal to the life.

being a good human being is good business ~ Paul Hawken

Steps on the journey

Budget – know well how things are priced in your life. This will make your life a lot easier.
Save – the money for all the extras that are valuable. and work out your language around what saving means to you. Is saving really for a ‘rainy day’? or is it for all the amazing things you will do in life?
Cherish and Enjoy – Really be glad about money – enjoy it and use it wisely and know that there is always more where it comes from.
Who do you shop for? Who are the people in your life who get the majority of your money, is it you, your family, friends, or the bank?

3. Tradition tradition tradition

“tradition does not mean to look after the ash, but to keep the flame alive”
~ Jean Jaures

Like my mother used to say during my catholic childhood, tradition is everything.

“study the past, if you would define the future” ~ Confucius

Tradition can be simple – Birthdays for example, sending a card in mail or a letter, Sunday brunch, annual gatherings, ritual prayers

a weekly gathering in your Temple/Mosque/Church/Synagogue

Tradition can be more complex – teachings memorized and passed on from generation to generation. Tradition matters because we all come from the past, our past is what brought us into the present moment and into this moment. The more value we place on traditions, customs more inner richness, and inner wealth we cultivate. Tradition nourishes us.

“traditions help define who we are; they provide something steady, reliable and dependable in a confusing world” ~ Unknown

Tradition helps to anchor me in what is essential, my roots and helps me to remember the valuable past teachings, and see how they change over time. What does tradition do for you?

Steps on the Journey

Make a list of traditions you follow since childhood, what do these mean to you?
What traditions are you drawn to that you feel are a part of your ‘eternal heart’?
How do you see your role as a woman evolving in tradition?
Go to a museum – check out the ancestry that is visible and available around you. Immerse yourself in the traditional things of the past for a while to see how they fit you and your feminine.

4. Culture is everything

“a nation’s culture resides in the hearts and in the soul of its people” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Culture is a powerful medium through which we relate on the planet.

We have a diverse culture and many different languages, traditions and ethnic backgrounds. Culture for millions is a definition of their inner universe. Many people only identify with their heritage and their culture.
Your culture can always use more discovery, you can relish in it. make sure you understand it and feel it.
I grew up in Easter Europe. Mongolian, Asian and European weaved cultures are incredible to me.

Find what calls to you, no one likes a boring woman without taste in culture.

“culture is the widening of the mind and of the spirit” ~ Jawaharlal Nehru

I love Tibetan Buddhism and I love the art of this culture. Nepal, Bhutan, India are inspiring to me, sensuality the colours, fabrics, and tactile sensations of if all. The language and the history and the richness of wisdom surpasses what can be done in one lifetime. I am just excited about it.

“culture outperforms strategy every time; and culture with strategy is unbeatable”   ~ Quint Studer

Steps on the journey

Travel – travel will open your ends to the human diversity and cultural bliss that we have on earth, as well as mayhem
Learn a new language – how we communicate shows much about who we are, language is art and languages open us to understand cultures and ways of those people with more clarity.
Pick an aspect of culture you enjoy – see what it is about particular culture you like and enjoy it. Is it the food, the folklore, the arts, the fashion, is it the music? You can choose and enjoy it, it will make a wonderful conversation starter.

5. Know your vice and how to dismantle it

seek the wisdom that will untie your knot. seek the path that demands your whole being ~Rumi

This is where a lot of women may get lost. To really know your vice is to really be able to be honest with yourself.

Podcast on Honesty:

if light is in your heart, you will find your way home ~ Rumi

Whatever it may be for you, your body, attitudes, family, addictions, be very close and intimate with your vices, they can be the sorrowful endings to your happiness, if you do not know how to manage them or dismantle them.

and God said: Love your enemy, and I obeyed him and loved myself ~ Khalil Gibran

Steps on the journey

Let go of addictions – Tobacco, alcohol, drugs – they limit you and your mind int he potential and they do not heal you with becoming your brilliant self
Take best care of the body – make sure you are properly hydrated, you practice some physical activity, and that you eat healthy food. Vegetarian is best.
A brilliant woman isn’t a killer – vegetarian diet is a necessity to help you be your best in everyday life.
Meditate – meditation practice will be your best friend forever. You will develop more understanding of who you are and gain greater intimacy with your own heart.

6. Know your ‘God’

No God, No Problem – Spirituality is everything.

I believe in God, don’t panic, just pray ~ unknown

A brilliant woman is tapped into the fabric of life and co-creates with existence. There is not you and me there is the knowing that all that is manifesting is there for many karmic reasons. If you have a religion that believes in God, get personally involved with the theme of ‘God’ get to really understand for yourself what it is that you are praying to and worshiping.

turn a negative thought into a prayer ~ unknown

Having faith and belief and inner trust is the basis of compassion and wisdom and helps us to navigate the challenges of life.

god will not have his work made manifest by cowards ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Steps on the Journey

What religion/Faith are you – This is a fun and informative tool to discover where your current beliefs are pointing you towards.
Develop a relationship with holy  What is holy to you?, what does it mean and how does it affect our daily life?
Have a spiritual friend/teacher/mentor guide – These are anchors and support that helps your path and your inner wisdom to come out.
Develop altruistic attitudes – altruism is simple to develop the things we love and care about are really there for us. we can cultivate and practice loving kindness and compassion and these will help to move our life in the more harmonious direction.

7. Have a cause

poverty is the worst form of violence – Mahatma Gandhi

Get interested in the world you are living in. I am very much into alleviating poverty and supporting women. So I have a foundation that supports these causes and I donate money time and energy to help educate women.

education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world
~ Nelson Mandela

Earth also matters to me a lot, and living a sustainable life s very important for me, Alleviating poverty however takes precedence for me, as it was something that very gravely affected my life at one point during my yogini retreat and travels.

So pick a cause, dedicate yourself to something that matter, animals, preservation of rain forests, pure water for everyone, alleviating poverty, or environmental causes.

These are important things that show your care and accountability as a human being on Earth.

it is our collective and individual responsibility to preserve and tend to the world in which we all live ~ His Holiness 14th Dalai Lama

Steps on the Journey

Make a list of things/people you love and ways in which you can support them that benefits everyone.
Donate time, money, energy, volunteer, help.
Participate in conferences and summits to share your voice, and hear what others have to say.

8. Find your Love

amazing things happen when you do the things you love ~ unknown

Knowing what you are about is very important, it is a culmination of understanding your inner wealth and applying your values and resources in a way that helps you grow and be happy while also helping others. I was a nurse for almost a decade, and today i rely on the wisdom of nursing but I do not practice medicine any longer. Now my time is focused on teaching Buddhism and Contemporary spirituality to women and men and meditation.

our prime purpose in this life is to help others, and if you can’t help them at least don’t hurt them ~ His Holiness 14th Dalai Lama

These are the things I love the most, my days are enriched and filled with joy and love and this is what is most important for me while I am alive.

the meaning of life is to find your gift, the purpose of life is to give it away ~Pablo Picasso

It is much easier sharing what you love than what you are only good at, as skills are essential they are not fulfilling long-term.

Steps on the Journey

Invest in some one-on-one coaching to really fine tune your purpose and create a life of vision
For 10 days, every morning just when you wake up write down 3 things you would really want to do that day. Evaluate all 30 things at the end of ten days, what is standing out to you?

9. Ritual Matters

we don’t remember days, we remember moments ~ Cesare Pavese

Ritual can not be underestimated. Ritual is what binds tradition together and what makes a good spiritual practice. Ritual deserves a spot as a separate point to contemplate. Ritual can be something very magical when you let it.

Ritual(s) are sacred. Rituals last over a period of time. One of simple rituals that we all can relate with in the modern world is taking a shower. this simple activity is not only a habit it is something that we can not live without for an extended period of time.

ritual lulls our fear of disorder with the certainty of order ~ E. M. Broner

Rituals are things that make life the way it is.

  • Perhaps it is the spoon of honey in your tea every day, or only once a week.
  • Perhaps it is the same road you walk daily
  • Perhaps it is the way you brush your hair, or shave your legs

These things are ritual behaviours, that make or break your life feminine.

Sure you can go on without that spoon of honey, yet when you get it, the way you pick it up the way you swirl it and put it in the tea, all those actions combined in that moment make for a ritual experience and deepen your connections tis the essence of your own heart. Therefore, Ladies, Ritual is everything to consider in your life

any ritual is an opportunity for transformation. to do a ritual, you must be willing to be transformed in some way. the inner willingness is that makes the ritual come alive and have power. If you aren’t willing to be changed by the ritual, don’t do it ~Starhawk

Steps on the Journey

Make list of things you do every day – How long have you done them? if more than a year it becomes a ritual.
What are your favourite rituals?
What feelings and emotions do these rituals stimulate in you? What gets transformed in you as a result of this ritual?
Throw out outdated rituals.

10. Devotion to life

true devotion means becoming the hand of the Divine. whatever comes your way, you will know how to transform it into something beautiful ~ Sadhguru

Topic of devotion is a large one and I believe that to be a brilliant woman you must be devoted to living a full feminine life, devoted to radiance and brilliance, enlightenment and something that requires you to believe and trust in miracles, angels and Holy Sacred sanctum. The Shakti and the Goddess forces of universe that are breathing you are moving you through life. Trust the force of the natural organic feminine in you. These are essential energies that the world needs today. Your unique brilliance is what makes this world a better place and what makes the world wonderful and inspiring to others. Magical and inviting. Devotion is a gift.

the path to Divine, through devotion and emotions is called Bhakti Yoga

Find out more about devotion in this article.

what you treat with devotion grows ~ unknown

Steps on the Journey

Prostrations – bowing with respect to the divine you trust and believe in is one of the ways to cultivate greater devotion. It builds your relationship and respect with the Divine.
Go kind – kindness matters and simple acts of kindness can be done daily to help others and benefit them. Kindness will teach you to have more patient and also to develop greater compassion.