They happen to us all. Practice of meditation allows us to really understand the nature of our mind and to rest in emptiness. The more time and sincere effort we place on our practice more we get to experience the natural fruits of emptiness.
Every once in a while we face a disturbing event in life, may be we hear something on the news, or we read something in the paper. We discover that the natural compassion we have moves us towards helping those who are in need. When we are unable to help someone we experience suffering, and as a result of that difficult emotions.
There may be other occasions when we experience negative emotions, and it is good to know how to handle the challenges of emotional attachment.
Whether female or male it is important to understand our essential True nature as emptiness. Once we understand that, we can then appropriately direct our energy when dealing with disturbing emotions and suffering present.
Feelings are part of our life, being human means feeling many things throughout a day. A deep capacity to feel and be in touch with life, allows us to cultivate sensitivity to life’s issues and approach them with greater care and compassion.
Feelings are meant to be experienced and we need to learn to channel the energy of our emotions appropriately. A feeling of Love and Joy that we have in our hearts towards our family needs to be expressed and shared. It is a shared fuel that allows us to continue to grow and work together.
Disturbing emotions serve as tools to point us in the right direction.
We can see that throughout history emotions have also been used to manipulate and distort people. Inappropriate use of shame and guilt in certain cultures makes people feel timid and disempowered. When these feelings arise out of natural mind they point the practitioner to what needs to be corrected in a simple and graceful way.
We have to remember that it is our attachment and aversion to feelings and emotions that creates these problems and disturbances.
For example when we see injustice in the world, like abuse and violence done on women, instead of fighting back we can use this fire of crossed boundaries into bridging gaps that are lacking in education, and creating appropriate places to help women. We can teach women educated means to defend themselves without the use of violence, we can educate and show people ways and practical tools to relate most of all appropriately with their own body and with the bodies of other people.
We need to understand that due to karmic causes some people naturally are more inclined towards peace and others struggle with this. Compassion and Buddha Nature is an inborn quality of every human being.
When dealing with disturbing emotions we need to learn to understand that the emotional reaction and behaviour of people has to do with their capacity to rest in emptiness, and understand their own mental patterns.
Compassion is what arrises out of natural mind/emptiness. It leads to right action and naturally dissolves conflicts.
Rev. Dr. Sonam Wangmo